(25/02-2015) – If you think about the word commitment, what comes up for you? Does it sound like a chore or a burden, or perhaps something that you have to do instead of want to do? Well committing to positive actions is different and not like that at all.
When you commit yourself to positive actions, guess what. You gain all the benefits and reap all the rewards. Committing yourself to positive action means committing to your authentic self.
Although commitment may sound like a bad word, when it comes to committing yourself to positive actions, there are a few steps you can take to make it easier.
(04/022015) – The fear of public speaking is as common to man as the sun is as common during the day and do not fear, almost everyone goes through the same process day in and day out, but just to be sure, here are some ten important steps to overcome the fear of public speaking.
Stage fright itself is a common factor affecting almost every public speaker, especially when going through the process for the first few times.
Eventually as time goes by and several speeches later, the fear and stage fright just comes to pass like the smoke in the wind.
Here are some of the most common and effective means to overcome your fear of public speaking.
(22/01-2015) – In public speaking, fear maybe viewed as negative leading to ineffective communication. This is the tendency if you predict bad situations. Fear can be easily seen through physical manifestations: hands cold and clammy, rumbling speech, slouching and unwanted movements.
In public speaking, fear comes from the fear of the unknown.î Most people are afraid of not being liked, offending someone, forgetting everything, of stumbling and falling or ruining the effort.
But fear can be seen in a positive aspect as well. According to Kenneth McFarland, ìit is not necessary to banish fear in order to gain confidence. A wholesome fear of failure is one of the best guarantees of success.î
Fear can be a motivating force for the public speaker that adds strength, energy and conviction to otherwise lifeless ideas. Your courage is the ability to see fear in a realistic perspective. The way to curb your fear is to prepare thoroughly. But fear cannot be eliminated fully. It is meant to be conquered.
(14/01-2015) – Fear of failure is common for obvious reasons. People want success and yet only those who are brave enough to confront this type of fear are the ones able to rise above their fears and achieve whatever goals they have set for themselves. For those who were overcome with this fear, then they are prevented from realizing their potential.
The most destructive element entailed with the fear of failure is one’s inability to take criticism or feedback well. Instead, they tend to magnify the mistakes they have created along the way until it overtakes their mind such that it is difficult to get rid of them. There are also instances wherein the fear of failure is so immense that people tend to limit themselves to the point of not trying for fear of failing.
Why must fear of failure be given attention on, you might ask. Unless you are able to let go of the fear of failure, then you are unable to achieve your desired result. Oftentimes, fear of failure produces negative thoughts that reduce your actual potential. You think you are incapable of achieving something when it fact you can.
Once you are brave enough to do something about this fear, then you are able to provide yourself more freedom to do what you need to do and succeed at it. Here are some basic methods you can try.
(11/11-2014) -Procrastination if left unchecked can turn into a bad habit, which could eventually be very hard to break. Most people don’t seem to realize that the habit of procrastination can cost them a lot of negativity; therefore one should take the trouble to identify and eradicate this element.
The following are some of the more popular reasons why most people have lapsed into the procrastination habit:
The famous “I don’t know” excuse – this is one of the most popular excuses given when an individual is not really interested in getting a particular task done. By feigning this lack of knowledge the individual is probably able to keep from having to complete a certain task and with the added hopeful outcome of not being asked to do it in the future.
I don’t know enough about this – we now go into the idea that you are not knowledgeable enough, intelligent enough, clever enough… In short: Not good enough go do what you have to do or need to do. So that means that you will have to either go in therapy, or get more knowledge, get more information on the subject before doing anything. Therefore, it is not “procrastination” but a delay needed to get more knowledge. The good thing about this excuse is that you will in fact never have information enough or knowledge enough to be able to get there.
When I was a child, I put my finger on a red hot kitchen stove, just to see what it did.
Well… It was very hot, and I got burned. Yes, I know, my mum told me so, but anyway, I had to try.
From that, I got the belief that red hot kitchen stoves are very hot, and that I shouldn’t touch them.
Beliefs aren’t bad, in fact. They help us put our world in a system, so we, very rapidly, can find out of what to do and what not to do. So we can take some decisions and act very quickly without having to debate or think a lot before we do any action.
So we actually have a lot of different beliefs, and we are using them constantly without any problems.
But now, I could also have taken the belief that all kitchen stoves, hot or not, in a kitchen or in a store, wherever they are, are dangerous and will hurt me if I come too close to them.
Now, this belief, in itself, is still a good belief, because since I will keep away from every single kitchen stove, hot or not, I will not get burnt by them. So this belief will accomplish the same thing that the first belief: do not touch hot stoves.
But not only, it will protect me, of course, but it will also limit me in some ways: I will be afraid of every kitchen stove.
This is a limiting belief.